Updated: Sep. Texting builds an almost intimate bond that can sometimes make it harder to meet face-to-face, because now your meeting is fraught and full of high stakes.
Fules being said, you should do some pre-date texting to check for deal-breakers, and more importantly, for safety reasons. So, the question is, how long to text before having a first date is the right amount of time? Is it better to move quickly into the first date, or should you take it slow and really get to know as much as you can about the person via text before meeting face to face? To help figure out what the "right" amount of time to text is before going on a date, Rule reached out to online dating experts.
They explain why the timeline between digital and real life contact may be shorter than you think, and how to know when and if you're ready to take that next step. Here is what they had to say.
How Long To Text Before Meeting In Person Shutterstock When it comes to making the move from digital chat to real-life chat, my tactic was always to move slowly and really get to know the person well before moving on to setting up an actual date. Oftentimes, what would happen was either the conversation would dry up or, when we did finally meet up textlng person, there was an inevitable letdown.
I figured that was just how fate dating went.
You want to meet in person as quickly as possible because some people can have great texting chemistry but then aren't attracted to the person. When it comes to moving from texting to the first date, the sooner the better. But as Kissimmee adult chat dating expert Julie Spira explains, it can often just be because online dating is a s game.
What You Should Know About Them Before The Date So, if the timeline for texting is a week or less, how much should you actually try to learn about that person before the date? Should you try and cram in as much fact-finding as possible beforehand, or is less actually more? Spira says to keep it light in the pre-date text conversations, and suggests limiting it to shared interests and passions.
Her advice is to save the major filtering and getting to know one another for the first date. She adds that no matter how much you get to know one another over text, "you cannot know if you have a true connection or not until you meet. Should you talk textiing the phone or FaceTime before the first date? Shutterstock Since texting is a limited tool to get to know someone before meeting, should you consider other dtae of conversation prior to the date?
On this, the experts are split. Chlipala says no — head straight into meeting in person, safely.
However, if you're just worried you're rushing things, the experts say not to worry about that — the sooner the better. Schedule the date to see how you feel when you meet.
If you don't, maybe someone else will, and life is too short to be filled with regrets. This article was originally published on May 10,